Surviving Grief With A Business : 2023 the year of goo
There is this theory that life teaches you lessons, it gives you things so that you can learn and grow. If this is true...I would like to stop learning for the rest of the year. HA!
In my mind surviving grief always meant somebody died. I didn't know you could grieve things that were unrelated to death like friendships, living people, jobs, etc. In therapy I learned about something called Maslow's hierarchy of human needs. The hierarchy is a pyramid starting with physiological needs, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization. If one of these things is missing or off you can feel pretty unwell.
Earlier in the year my uncle passed away suddenly. It shook me to the core. A stand up man, a pillar in our family. Filling the shoes of father figure and friend. My biggest supporter. He actually inspired me to go full throttle with Love Naty Designs. One of the most encouraging and kind people I ever knew. Often times I ask myself when I am conflicted about something...what would Fred say here? I hear his voice "absolutely, go for it". So here I am writing my first Love Naty blog.
When my uncle died I thought that was going to be the most horrific thing to happen for a while, and for the most part it still is. Then, I abruptly lost my job (security), said farewell to one of my best friends (love and belonging), a key family member decided to walk away from our family with no explanation (esteem). Finally my house had a carbon monoxide leak that could have taken everybody in this house (safety and security). My pyramid is a puddle of goo right now. When I woke up to a burst pipe in my bathroom yesterday I thought I was going to burst...instead I decided it's time to take action right now.
I want to rebuild my pyramid and I am doing so by staying motivated to do the things I love. A lot of these things made me think it's time to slam on my breaks. However, all the things that have happened in this year alone have given me the chance to enter a new phase of my life. Everything that has happened was completely out of my control and left me with a sense of panic and loss. I have decided that this new phase is where I am going to stop worrying about what everybody else is thinking/doing and go full throttle back into business with what I want to do. Be a productivity machine.
Am I scared, yes. Do I think I am going to fail, maybe. Will I always get back up and try again....in the words of the most brilliant person I ever knew....absolutely, I will go for it.
See you soon,
Ps. In honour of my uncle here my latest product! (Photo is of my beautiful Aunt and our late Freddy Fox)